every beat of my heart

Wednesday, March 30, 2005 @10:14 AM

Webster's New World College Dictionary says this:

love (luv)

1) a deep and tender feeling of affection for or attachment or devotion to a person or persons

2) an expression of one's love or affection

3) a feeling of brotherhood and good will toward other people

4) a. strong liking for or interest in something (love of music) b. the object of such liking

5) a. a strong, usually passionate, affection of one person for another, based in part on sexual attraction b. the person who is the object of such an affection; sweetheart; lover

6) a. sexual passion b. sexual intercourse

7) tennis score of zero

8 Theol.) a. God's tender regard and concern for mankind b. mankind's devotion to and desire for God as supreme good

Well, that about covers all concepts of love, with the exceptions of love in verb form.

I hate it when people (usually kids, like most of you) say that love can't be defined and that it's some mystical thing that can't be explained or defined, only felt and expressed by a single individual. It's an immature attitude and it shows an immature desire for something more than what it is. It's a glamourization and over-estimation of something that is far too simple to be dealt with in these terms. If love was supposed to be something felt only between two people or by a single individual in a totally unique way, then how do people agree with the love stories/poems/songs/screenplays/etc that are written about it? Why do people cry at sad love movies or romantic comedies? Why?

Here's why: they relate to that story and the feeling that love evokes within them.

Love is not a feeling, it evokes feelings that come from a strong attachment to a person and a devotion to that person's well being. Love is when you desire nothing more for a person than for their ultimate healthiness and happiness. It is not how much you feel good and all tingly about them. That's just a physical response to a profound connection (or, in most of your cases, infatuation that will result in nothing but embarrassing memories of immaturity).

If love couldn't be defined, then how can it be discussed in sociology classes on Marriage and the Family (or, the dictionary at the least)? Sure, there are many specific definitions of love, much like the one given by the dictionary entry above, but it's still classcially defined. Why must you people mysticize and romanticize something that is so human and natural to us?

Why?

Here's why: you're bored with yourselves and scared of being unhappy. You all desire that wonderful, fairy-tale, happy-ending where you feel all happy and lovey-dovey forever with your soulmate and where you could never feel sad or lonely. Yeah, right. That just shows emotional immaturity and dependency issues. It's a bratty desire for something that cannot and should not be sustained. Humans can't stand to be uncomfortable in any way possible and, by saying that love is some profound mystical journey away from the real world shows a strong urge for something that can never be obtained but is still naively thought about and wanted. What a waste of time. Shame on you.

Saying, "I bet no one can define it" is illogical, silly, naive and all-around stupid. Yeah, it all has different meanings for us individually because of our own unique surroundings and social interactions and personal events, but, when it comes down to the basics, it all means the same single thing that does not escape definition.

PS If you feel that this doesn't apply to you because you're of a higher tier on the maturity grade then ignore it. Unfortunately, there are a lot of people in the world this applies to.

I kinda agree with his comments. This is a comment by some guy in a forum